This past week I met a woman, who was buying items at JoAnns to help decorate her son's apartment. She was from the East Coast and didn't have any coupons. I gave her mine and she gave me a fantastic hug in exchange. My gift of coupons was a simple gesture. Her gift of a heartfelt hug reminded me how friendships can be quickly formed through our love of stitching, but it isn't the actual stitching that forms the friendships....it is the words of support, kindness, and encouragement that build those friendships.
Sadly, words can also hurt. People say things, maybe without thinking, or without intending to be harmful, but there are words that can be painful. Words have the power to stop creativity from growing. Words can teardown friendships, or stop friendships from building. Too many times I've seen talented people shutdown after such words have been said to them, or indirectly spoken about them or their work! And, when this happens others are harmed too!
I have enough of a challenge of not sticking my foot in my mouth, or saying something unintentionally that hurts someone. Yet, while I know I'm not perfect (at anything I do), I also struggle when I get into situations where a group, or a friend, that I care about, becomes caught up in a situation where such negative words do harm.
So, today my dear friends, I simply want to inspire everyone to take time and share kind words with others. You have the power to encourage others to create and find joy! You have the power to inspire others with your words of support and positive feedback.
To all of you that continually send positive words and encouragement my way, Thank you with all my heart. I try hard to pay this forward each day! I do believe we can all use more positive words in our lives, and can benefit by do this to build friendships and groups that help to inspire creativity and fun!
Just as with every stitch, every word can make a difference.
Hugs, many hugs,
SewCalGal
You are welcome--so much of your site inspires me....
ReplyDeleteDarlene, what a beautiful post! Thank you so much for sharing such truth. May we all pay it forward with words of encouragement and kindness.
ReplyDeleteI loved your post. I found myself agreeing with everything you said. I hope everyone who reads it will pay it forward.
ReplyDeleteVery sweet. Thank you so much for sharing such wonderful inspiration. :)
ReplyDeleteThen let me say this, You inspire me, I love to read your blog and I look forward to your replies. I have gone back and read things you wrote because they make me feel good. You give a lot of kindness and encouragement and I really appreciate you.
ReplyDeleteTrue words! Thanks for the inspiration!
ReplyDeleteAwesome! Are there more words to say how inspiring your words are? Nope, I'll stick with
ReplyDeleteAwesome!
Well said SewCalGal!
ReplyDeleteThanks for this timely reminder.
Susan
neat! it is always nice to help someone out when you really do not think you are doing that big of a deal. With all these cards that get scanned at the grocery store at times there has been someone standing ahead of me from out of town stocking their camper with grocerys' the cashier will ask to scan a card and they say they don't have one - several times while overhearing this I ask is it ok if they use my card - the answer is always yes - it is no big deal to me other than I get a discount at the gas station attached in the parking lot - but I have gotten some very nice thank you's which make you feel good when you realize the person actually saved more than a couple dollars.
ReplyDeleteKaren
http://karensquilting.com/blog/
AMEN, Darlene :)
ReplyDeleteGreat post!
SheilaC
What a wonderful post. Sometimes we just need to be reminded how words can either be given with love or thrown like a sword.
ReplyDeleteLet me pay it backward as well as forward. You have shared incredible sweetness with us today and reminded us not only that the hard words can hurt but that the loving words need to be spoken. Thanks.
ReplyDeleteAmen :)
ReplyDeleteSo true! It takes so little of our time to uplift someone's spirits with words of encouragement. I get a lot of inspiration from your blog. Thanks!
ReplyDeleteTreating others as you would like to be treated works pretty well. Thank you for such a lovely post - I'm 'borrowing' the wonderful saying so I can pass it on - hope that's okay!
ReplyDeleteYou never cease to amaze me, what a lovely post, a healing post for those who have been hurt in such a way. you are always thinking of others and you are right, time to move on.
ReplyDeleteI hope you have alot of visitors to this post.
Very insightful post, Darlene. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteWell said!
ReplyDeleteThank you Darlene for your wonderful inspiring post. We all need to take the time to encourage each other and ourselves since I do believe that often we are our own worst enemies when it comes to judgement. Keep up the great work that you do on your blog, I enjoy reading your entries. Have a wonderful rest of the week.
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing this, Darlene. It resounds with me this week precisely because I read something by someone I admire, directed at some young quilters, lacking diplomacy to say the least and that ended up by hurting them. I felt sad, because it was pointless and instead of edifying and uplifting some promising young quilters, it discouraged them. May I think twice before I speak...
ReplyDeleteSo true. thanks for the reminder SewCAlgal! Off to spread kind words!
ReplyDeleteThanks for the very important reminder!!
ReplyDeleteThanks for this post- I have had some negative comments that make me shake my head...I wonder...what makes them so prefect...
ReplyDeleteAmen! :)
ReplyDeleteSmiles,
Kelly
PS....that is how I started signing smiles, kelly....because I noticed how often we all need a smile....a hug....and a kind word. I want to contribute to the good in this world.
What a nice, heartfelt post. I think you do a great job of being supportive and encouraging on your blog. That is the "tone" that comes through.
ReplyDeleteThis is a wonderful post, it's so refreshing to read such a positive post. Thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteGood for you! I'm trying to be more positive in my day-to-day life. I just feel better when I keep a positive frame of mind. Life is too short to get upset over minor inconveniences. And I really loved your quotation.
ReplyDeleteFive years ago, I experienced a life-threatening ilness. When I got sidk, my so-called friends somehow disappeared off the face of the earth. I have always said that grief rewrites your address book, and this experience definitely rewrote mine. There can be a period of loneliness when one figures out that one's friends aren't really the people you thought they were.
I recently wrote a post on a quilting forum where I pledged to be more positive in my comments. Interestingly, most people who responded said they were reserving their right to be crabby and said they weren't up for the pledge. Oh well. I'm not trying to change the world. Only myself.
Take care. Great post, and for me, so timely.
It's a good lesson to apply to our daily lives...thanks for the reminder. Sending hugs!
ReplyDeleteWhat a lovely gesture in the shop.
ReplyDeleteYou are so right about words hurting, even unintentionally. I try and think before I speak or write anything that could be misinterpreted.
Love and hugs Gina xxx
You're a wise woman and thanks for this post :) I agree totally.
ReplyDeleteInspiring words. It takes no more effort to be kind than unkind.
ReplyDeleteThank you and here's a hug! fondly, Sandy
ReplyDeleteThank you, my friend! This is too good, too true. In my classroom closet there is a note on the wall left there by a teacher before me:
ReplyDeleteTake time every day to say something kind to every student.
It's so easy to let the opportunity pass, but kindness matters! You do that for so many, thank you.
Hugs, pokey
Wow thanks for sharing awesome post! Blessings to you.
ReplyDeleteExcellent post. When I taught school one of our things we drilled into the children was..."I know something good about you!" Just that statement at the end of each day uplifted the kids a bit at a time, so that on the playground you could hear some of them saying to their classmates...."I know something good about you!"
ReplyDeleteWhat a wonderful post. I too think quilters are the nicest people in the world. The ones I've met are so positive and I'm always amazed when I read that someone has been mean. I hope that hasn't happened to you. I love your blog and what you do.
ReplyDeleteDarlene..
ReplyDeleteThat's my kind of thinking & glad you wrote it. I also noticed the AccuQuilt GO colors too! (tee hee...thought you'd sneak that past us, huh?)
Who cares about the Accuquilt colors???? Very nice post... if you meant it. And I hope you did! Found you on facebook and found your blog. This Accuquilt GO "game" on the internet has created A LOT of unnecessary anguish to a lot of people. Nasty posts and jumping through hoops to "win" this tool.
ReplyDeleteAnyway... your post was indeed well said and received by me. Quilters, for the most part, have been the nicest people I have met on line and in shops. We share a common love of fabric and creativity and willingness to share. Don't be blind-sided by the other "stuff." ... Karen
I wholeheartedly agree with what you say. It is too easy to judge, critisise, condemn. Wouldn't it be nice if we smiled, praised and thought of the effort that people put into even the humblest piece of work.
ReplyDeleteSmile the next time you go out. It is amazing the difference it makes!
Amen!!
ReplyDeleteLike Dana, you inspire me, I love your blog, and am always thrilled to hear from you. Thank you for such a wonderful post, sending you big hugs across the pond :)
ReplyDeleteWell said!! Thanks for a brilliant Post!!
ReplyDeletePaulette
Without your posting and encouraging words I wouldn't be where I am today in this little blog world. Thank you for the bottom of my quilts. :)
ReplyDeleteYou have been awesome!
I agree with you that words can hurt, and your post was wonderful!
ReplyDeleteMicki
such truth.....great post
ReplyDeletefabulous thoughts today!
ReplyDeleteWhat a thoughtful post. You are right~ life is too short, be happy! Have a happy weekend!
ReplyDeleteThis touches me in so many ways. So many times those little things we do can make us feel so good. Just as you would have felt with that hug from a stranger you gave the coupon to. You are a special person. I love giving more than receiving and always have done...not saying I don't always feel so special when I do receive from somebody.
ReplyDeleteHugs Khris